"Life becomes easier when you learn to accept an apology you never got." – Robert Brault
Most people going through a divorce feel that they have been treated unfairly by their spouse during their marriage, and in almost all cases, that is true. Waiting for your soon-to-be-ex to apologize for their failures in your marriage, however, isn't going to make anything easier.
Whether they are ignorant of their shortcomings, they are stubborn, or they just want to cause you additional pain, don't wait for an apology that may never come. Learning to accept an apology you never get can be difficult, but in the end it will help you move on and enjoy your life free of the grip your ex has on you.
"If you're going through hell, keep going." – Winston Churchill
This quote might not sound uplifting at first. For many people, going through a divorce can seem like hell as most Tulsa divorce attorney experts would attest. Even if you know it is a necessity, you will be forced to work through terrible feelings that led up to, and even during, the divorce. Perhaps the only thing worse than going through a divorce, however, is being stuck in a broken relationship that has little to no chance of repair. So, while it can be painful to experience, pushing forward and going through the process of mourning the end of the marriage is often the best way to put that pain behind you.
"All endings are also beginnings. We just don't know it at the time." – Mitch Albom
For most people going through a divorce, it is a difficult reminder of the end of something that started out very good. While it is ok to mourn what you have lost, take some time to really remember that you are also at the beginning of something that can also be great! The end of a marriage can also be perceived as the beginning of the rest of your life. You'll experience many more joys and adventures in the future, so make sure to keep that in mind throughout this challenging, but brief, phase in your life.
"Never regret. If it's good, it's wonderful. If it's bad, it's experience." – Victoria Holt
You almost certainly had many good times throughout your marriage. Going through a divorce is painful, but it can be a learning experience too. Look back to remember the good times that were there throughout the marriage, and look forward at the good times still to come. In addition, try to learn from the difficulties you are currently experiencing so you can emerge from them wiser and ready for whatever comes your way.
"Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all." – Alfred Lord Tennyson
Of course, one of the most uplifting quotes for those going through a divorce. In the vast majority of cases, a marriage will have had many good times. Even if the marriage is ending, it is typically better to have loved and lost than to have never loved at all. For legal guidance and help in going through an Oklahoma divorce, please contact Tulsa divorce attorney Jeffrey Hensley, Esq.’s office at (918) 416-4832.